The Power of Your 'No'

Everyone Struggles

Whether you’re an extrovert, introvert, or somewhere in between, we think everyone struggles with this. Pressure and people-pleasing are two main reasons why many times it is so hard to say that two letter word - no. Innate in us are these characteristics and they can make saying ‘no’ one of the cringiest things you’ve ever had to do. 

As a business, we find ourselves often times in a bind of being professionally courteous, while also letting our client know that we just cannot perform what they’ve asked. Particularly in situations either out of our control, or in things we have already outlined in a contract. Don’t get us wrong…it was really tough that first time. We started feeling like we were letting someone down, or that the client would ultimately go and seek out that particular request somewhere else. 

Ultimately though, that was the reality. We just had to face it head on and accept it. 

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Your ‘Yes’ Becomes Worthless

Saying ‘yes’ as often as we did, really spread us thin. It weakened our work ethic, made us feel burnt out and most importantly really drained all the excitement and energy out of our true ‘Yes’!’ Our yeses were no longer meaningful, carefully thought-out, or impactful. 

There was a time where we felt like we had to say ‘yes’ to everything, and that ‘no’ could not exist in our business. If we said ‘no’ it made us weak, unfriendly, and devalued our brand. Boy…were we wrong. 

It took time. It took practice. And it took really learning how to create margin in our business to really be able to say the word ‘no’ - in a gracious but confident way. In a way that gave us freedom, creativity, and excitement back into those things that we could do, and do well!

Helpful Reminders

One thing that helped us with this was always giving a reason to why we are saying ‘no’. Whether in our emails or in phone calls, there is usually always a reason that we have for why we simply “cannot”. We explain this, so the other person feels heard, valued, and comes to an understanding with us of why we have to say no. 

We also love to support our clients/friends. If you are a client, or have ever worked with us - you are a friend to us. And friends support other friends. So if we ever have to say ‘no’ for whatever the reason - we like to give support in some way. By offering another type of service, another time, another vendor, or some type of option, we hope to show that we want to treat you like friends and to know that we truly do care! 

If You Scrolled Past Everything - Just Read This

‘No’ is not a horrible thing. It is actually very powerful. So is your ‘yes’. Guard both. Establish guidelines for both. Value both. When you do this, you create margin and harmony in your life that propels you to the successful life you have been pursuing. Whether in the little or the big things. 


The Glorious April 25th

As the snow is starting to melt and the sun is coming back out - that feeling of spring is getting closer and closer. It is one of our favorite seasons at Urban Flora. We think Miss Congeniality said it best when she was asked about the best date ever…“That’s a tough one. I’d have to say April 25th, because it’s not too hot, not too cold. All you need is a light jacket!” LOL We love that perfect ‘ a light jacket at night’ type of weather! 

We start opening the door of our studio as we work, breathe that fresh air, start organizing every nook and cranny of our space, and just really start feeling inspired with all the spring fliers that are in season. Not to mention - we feel more energized to work later because of all that afternoon light! Thank you daylight savings! 

In preparation for the spring weather coming our way, we want to share with you all what flowers will most likely be in our studio, and in our floral creations. If you are a bride getting married in the spring- these are the flowers we would totally recommend you consider for your special day! 

Not only are these going to be looking their best in the spring, but they are blooming away, and will be wayyyy more cost effective for a budget-friendly bride! If you aren’t a bride and just a genuine flower lover like us - snag a bouquet with some of these pretty things! Shameless plug - We are offering a bi-weekly floral subscription service where you have the opportunity to have some fresh blooms in your home lighting up that kitchen table. Who’s about it?! If you are- check out our website for that subscription info! 

Feel inspired fellow flower lovers! 

We would love to hear what your favorite season is and what flowers you absolutely love! Leave us a comment or DM on our Insta. We are always down to talk flowers! xoxo

How To Balance Your Work/Home Life

Since we are on a kick this week diving into ‘How to’ blogs, we thought we’d throw one more your way. It goes hand in hand with starting your morning off with a bang, so if you haven’t read Tuesday’s blog post on how to start your mornings – go read it girl!

Here at Urban Flora, it is essential that our work/home life has some margin. This isn’t to say that there aren’t some blurred lines sometimes. There are plenty of nights where our husbands are sleeping where we’ll be scrolling through Pinterest, pinning floral bouquets until midnight, or eating dinner by the computer, answering emails, just to get that extra work in. We all do it, but don’t think it’s necessarily the healthiest thing ever. It definitely does not work long term.

We want to share with you all, whether your work right now is being a full time student, business owner, or employee, the tips and tricks we’ve found to balancing this very fast paced world with self care and making strides away from the two dreadful words…burn out.

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1.       Schedule Your Work Hours– This is SO IMPORTANT. If you don’t already have scheduled work hours, this is key to maintaining margin in your day. We try to be up by 7 or 8 a.m, start our workday by 9 a.m, and end somewhere around 4 or 5. P.M.

Think about this – if you did have scheduled work hours, you would be forced to maintain your life around that 9-5 grind anyway. Working from home gives you a little leeway, but it helps to treat it like a scheduled job.

2.       Create An Inspiring Environment (Especially if you’re a Type 3) – Let’s just be real here for a sec. Do you feel your best working in bed with makeup still caked on from the night before? (We are speaking from personal experience). The answer for us is at least - heeeecccck no! We find to be most productive out of the house, in an inspiring environment like a coffee shop, or communal work space, when we aren’t in the studio.  If you can’t get out of the house, set aside a work space area that inspires you and makes you feel prepared for the work ahead.

Pro Tip: Two words – NATURAL LIGHT. Get out of that dark grungy space, and into some natural light. We find that natural light not only is great to do work in, but makes you feel good too.

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3.       Carve Out “Away” Time – Get away from your work every now and then. It’s so easy to work yourself so hard that you end up not having a social life. The kind of life that leads to burn out. Get out with guy or girl friends every once in a while. We find that at Urban Flora, even running errands or grabbing coffee with friends, or other local business owners, is like hitting the refresh button!

4.       Establish Ground Rules – Last but not least, establish time for that laundry that’s been sitting in the washer for two days…that you now have to re-wash. If you don’t schedule a time for chores – they simply don’t get done. Don’t forget – if you treat your work from home life as if you were working elsewhere, things will start to get messy. Whether you have to put a reminder in your phone, or schedule it in Google Calendar. Get it done girl!

We hope that this helps all you out there that have struggled with this as much as us. If you don’t struggle at all with your work life balance – we’re jealous! This is one of those been there, done that, scenarios. Most important of all – enjoy that work from home life, don’t be too rigid with yourself, but set boundaries that will maximize your time and forget about perfection. Progress is more important!

How To Start Your Morning As A Small Business Owner

Waking up in the morning is hard. Like really hard. We wish we could say that we were morning people over here at Urban Flora. Well one of us is (Sarah Beth). She probably kills this routine and gets it done at like 5 a.m. But for Katelyn and Victoria, this routine is VITAL. If you are a fellow business owner it can be so tough to get yourself motivated and even just out of the dang bed in the morning. That is why we are sharing a morning routine that we have found to be pretty effective in the ‘being your own boss’ world. This is the be a ‘Sarah Beth’ morning routine.

Disclaimer!!! This routine is totally just a template of what works for us. Switch it up, change how long or short you do things, add in your own routines! It’s all about what works for you and what motivates you to be a boss and kill your goals! 

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Love Your Mornings

& be a goal crusher.

1. Wake up relatively early. (This is more important than you think!) It jumpstarts your day and overall gives your more time. Time is precious in the business world! 

2. Make your bed. Let’s be real here…a made bed just feels GOOD. If you get this small task done, you’re more likely to crush those other tasks you have on your ‘to do’ list.  As the former Navy Seal trainer William McRaven would say, “You can change the world by making your bed.” How inspiring is that.

3. Turn on the diffuser! We loooove oils at UrbanFlora. They are great non-toxic candle replacements and we love our studio smelling amazing. In the morning, get the diffuser going - it’s a simple joy that makes the morning that much sweeter. 

Our personal fav blend - (Young Living) JOY & Citrus Fresh  

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4. Read or educate yourself. This is something we’ve found gets our minds going. Taking even 15 min to learn something new helps motivate, encourage and inspire you as you start your day!

5. Get Active. Whether its going for a morning run/ walk/ pilates class, your body is going to feel awake as soon as you get it moving. Exercise is also proven to get you in an overall better mood and energize you. 

6. Set Goals. Write those overwhelming tasks down. Visualize yourself getting them done. We promise this will help SO much. Whether its your personal life or business life, checking off those goals will feel so good and it’ll make you want to get more done! 

7. Start small. We feel that the most helpful tip is just remembering that you’re not alone in this. Everyone struggles with getting everything done. It’s hard! We feel you. Just remember, start small, work hard, and you’ll slowly but surely start to see progress. 

We would love to hear if you’ve tried our morning routine and what you might have done differently! DM us or email us. Let’s go on this goal crushing journey together! 


Intimate, Bohemian-Inspired Virginia Wedding

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photos by Hailey Pierce (hailes8)

contact: hello@haileypierce.com

We wanted to make it family oriented. We picked the location because it was a great set up for mixing and community. We each had our parents pray over us and had personal time with our siblings. Also, we set a chair out in remembrance of my mom. -Alison (bride)

Alison and Brad found a lot of their inspiration in the dreams and their Pinterest boards. They both love the bohemian feel, but with a dash of elegance. 

The most memorable part of their wedding was the moment right before Ali and her dad approached the doors to the ceremony. While they were waiting, her dad turned to her and said, "The best days are yet to come."

A helpful tip that Ali and Brad learned from their wedding was that with their wedding outside in May, handkerchiefs saved the day. They also found that taking pictures before the wedding helped them save time after the ceremony and they were able to spend more time with family. Not everything will go according to plan, which is okay! Just let it be. You will be marrying your bestie at the end of the day and you will get to do life with them every day! If you get a wedding coordinator, they will be such a brilliant investment. You will forget things without them!

I tried so hard to stay present as much as possible, but nothing kept the day from flying by. In the end, though, my dad was right: ‘Better days are yet to come.’ My marriage isn’t the wedding day, it’s every day after that. -Alison (bride)
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F L O W E R S  + R I B B O N   U S E D:

Peonies, Cappuccino Roses, Quicksand Roses, Anemones, Orlaya, Majolica Spray Roses, Ranunculus, Campanula, Gunni Eucalyptus, Seeded Eucalyptus -- Peau and Cotton silk ribbons from Frou Frou Chic

V E N D O R S

Venue: The Kyle House
Catering: Schaal 's Events
Planner: Tasha Willet

Dress: Bellisima Bridal

Flowers: Urban Flora

Band: Woody and Marcia McKenzie / Bluegrass, folk

Cake: Magnolia Foods

Hair: Andrea Miller

Make-up: Rachael Goldson - Mary Kay

Ring: Bowen and Blue Nile (Ali designed her own ring)

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